The world has the power to perpetuate our minds into being someone we're not. As human beings we sometimes don't realize how special we are and how our unique gift was given to us to specifically meet the worlds need. You don't realize what your gift is until you see, from your perspective, what is lacking in the world. For me it was strength and positivity.
Being a student for 25 years taught me a lot and I don't mean Algebra. I saw that students were developing something that was paralyzing them, and it was an itty bitty little word called fear. Students were afraid to raise their hand in fear of giving the wrong answer, they were afraid to do presentations and they were afraid to speak up. This hindrance has scarred so many generations of students and even for myself, I too suffered from it and paid the price of holding back my elevation.
From my experiences throughout school and my career. I've learned that fear is just as contagious as confidence is. I identified with so many powerful women who would be in meetings with me who spoke so confidently and unapologetically. I realized that the fear bug I caught while in school and seeing my peers so fearful to speak in public wasn't real. I had to unleash the boss hidden inside of me, and then empower those around me to do the same. I too, began to speak unapologetically and it started to resonate with people. People started to identify with my story and wanted to live their full potential.
The power of being you starts with owning your flaws. I overcame such defeat by being cognizant of my fear and then uplifting those around me. There will always be someone around you who is going through the same thing. Own your flaws and become you, someone is waiting for you to change their life.
Can you believe it's 2018? Time really flies by. Looking back on my past posts I have to say I've REALLY come a long way. Documenting your journey is so important to your growth and will enable you to appreciate how much you have overcome.
For me, when I first started Unleash Yourself I never intended for it to have a negative impact on people but somehow it did. I wrote about relationships, love, professional development, being single, and healthy lifestyle choices. I listened to my audience, looked at my metrics and aligned myself with what they resonated with the most.
In 2018 I want to make conscious decisions similar to that. Listening myself and being more concerned with what I want. In 2017 I felt like I was "trying" I was "expecting" I was "anticipating" but never really getting anywhere.
I started the year working at an amazing job, witnessed 4 beautiful weddings, traveled to LA, Malibu, Jamaica, and Toronto. I took on clients for myself and coached their careers, and I hosted 2 amazing events at Bloomfield College. In addition to that I was given the opportunity to teach at the college level for the Spring 2018 semester. I also participated in a career fair at Seton Hall where I met so many great students who were interested in media and marketing. Some even extended an invitation to me to speak at their organizations events.
I was amazed at what 2017 brought me but somehow it still brought me disappointment.
EXPECTATION took my joy, EXPECTATION took my happiness, EXPECTATION took my sanity, and EXPECTATION took my love.
I expected so much to happen for me in 2017 and when it didn't, I broke down. When I went back and read my 2016 post on what I learned that year, I took away so much and one thing in particular was "being still." God showed me that when I do nothing, that's when the doors open. When I stop expecting and stop worrying that's when I get what God has planned.
His plans are always better than mine and everything I received in 2017 was far more than what I anticipated. For 2018 I am living by the words "NO MORE EXPECTATION" I will truly be living for me and no one else. When it comes to my travel, my career, and my personal growth it will fall in my hands and God's. I am excited for what the new year will bring and more than anything I am excited about the peace it will bring. EXPECTING will really burn a hole in your heart. I'm learning to live and learning to let go. Whatever is meant to happen will happen no matter what we do.
Cheers to 2018 being LIT and carefree!
This is a very delayed post but definitely needed.
Over the course of the last few months I have experienced people's true "energy" and even my own. What energy are we talking about exactly? We won't get too technical but think about it as someone's aura or the way they perceive something. Some people have negative energy and some have positive energy. When someone has negative energy everything they perceive will either start or end with sarcasm or a complaint. If someone has positive energy they usually see the good in everything. If something goes wrong they are the first to make you feel better about it.
The people you surround yourself with will not always have positive energy, because we are human beings and not perfect. The key is understanding the different shifts. You will usually have at least one friend who will be negative in every situation and not even realize they are being negative. For myself, I am overall a very positive position. I do have negative moments where I am sarcastic and complain BUT I always have good intentions. Your friends should know your intentions and understand your personality enough to know when you are deliberately being negative or if you are trying to help. There is a difference, but overall take responsibility for your negative moments and apologize for them. Pouring negativity into situation will only make it worse.
Taking ownership for your energy is so important. Sometimes we lose focus in life and get wrapped up in work, and the negativity surrounding us that we forget about the spirit of love and uplifting others. Try to release your negative thoughts and emotions before entering a chaotic situation. I for one can relate that unorganization drives me crazy. It's so easy to enter a crumbling situation with negativity and name everything going wrong and how it could be better. I had to learn to be understanding of others first before inserting my energy into the situation. Just because I like doing things a certain way doesn't mean everyone else agrees or operates that way.
Learning to work with different energy types and merging into one space is so important. It starts with taking ownership for your own energy and not blaming others for whatever space you are in at that moment. Take a moment to reset and adjust, and then enter the situation with love.
One of the biggest fears in the world is failure. People are so afraid of being bad at something that they talk themselves out of going after their biggest dreams and never know if they would succeed at it or not.
The beauty of life is falling and then getting back up. People don't realize how much they inspire others through their defeat. Fail, and keep going, there's someone waiting to hear your story...
Here's 3 reasons why you should never be afraid to go after your dreams, and never look back!!
1. You are inspiring the future
You have no idea how much our youth looks up to us. Whether you fail at going after your dreams or not they are in awe of your confidence to do it. Make them proud and do your deepest desire they will thank you. So many of my friends and colleagues have amazing ideas of doing things they want to accomplish that actually benefit the next generation. Ranging from opening a homeless shelter that provides career help, personal/professional guidance, and meditation to creating a non-profit for at risk girls in urban communities. Whatever your heart desires, keep in mind that there is a little girl or boy waiting for you to help change their life, make them proud.
2. Your test will be your testimony
When I was at my lowest of lows I kept asking God why I was going through so much pain and anxiety. I was journaling, blogging, praying, and meditating everyday and I was still depressed and unhappy. I couldn't find a job I liked, and I had the worst problem saving money. When I started to tell people what I was going through I came across so many people who were going through the same thing. I couldn't believe that I wasn't alone. Now that I'm working in my dream job and content with my relationship, career, business, and finances I feel like I can share my story with others and inspire them to keep going because it will truly get better. Accept failure and defeat, accept every closed door, and every bit of bad news, it will be your testimony to another crying soul. You will empower them to keep going, because you got through it. So overcome these dark days and keep running towards the light at the end of the tunnel.
3. You are growing tremendously!
Whenever you fail at something your internal growth thanks you. The way you receive the news will determine whether or not you will grow from it or not. Mentally tell yourself that this is only a test and you will be unstoppable. Every closed door will be fuel to propel you to the next opportunity, every negative comment or set back will push you to go back to that audition again and kill it. Trust your process and your journey and trust God's lessons. You are going through it for a reason. Be inspired, be empowered, and be fearless.