So, you got a new boyfriend and your besties think you've changed? Interesting. This is a very common case. It is natural for you to venture out and meet new people. However, when your friends notice that you've been missing twerk it Tuesday's at the club in order to spend time with your boyfriend, what do you do?
In your mind you are not doing anything wrong. You just decided to stay in and spend some quality time with the bf. Meanwhile your friends are freaking out thinking you betrayed them for a guy.
The solution is to talk to your friends and find a balance. Your friends were there for you before he was, so that is the only perception they are seeing. You need to get them to understand your perception of growth. They clearly miss you, so be understanding and hear them out.
They miss staying up late and gossiping on the phone with you, and they miss going out and partying the night away having tons of fun. Now that you've been spending more time with your new boyfriend they are starting to feel like you've changed or you think you are too good to hang out with them anymore.
It could be that you've outgrown the club scene or the old things you do with them. It might not even be your new boyfriend preventing you from spending time with them. It could be that you are changing for the better because you are in a serious relationship now and can't do the same things you were doing before. You are growing, and they are not.
Either way they are still your friends and it is important to let them know what is going on and the real reason why you've been distant. Yes, they will talk about you behind your back and post photos together to make you feel like you are missing out on something. So in order to overcome that, be the bigger person and talk to them.
Your friends may be crazy but you love them. They were there for you before the new guy and will continue to be there no for you no matter what. Never allow a guy to control your friendships, ever. If they are your real friends and know you inside and out, they will understand your growth.
Never be afraid to express how you are feeling, that is the only way to get clarity and understanding. It might take a while for them to understand the change. But at least you were open and honest with them. Be true to yourself that is most important.
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