OMG I love my friends so much! The older we get the more we begin to appreciate friendships. Your friend should be someone who genuinely wants to see you succeed. They get more excited about your accomplishments than you do, and they empower you to become so much more than you already are.
This is important because we seek these traits in marriage and relationships. Knowing the meaning of a friend is more important than you think. When you make excuses for your friends behavior and actions, it is creating a comfort zone. That type of "comfort" will carry over into your personal life, relationships, and marriages. You will begin to make excuses for your boyfriend or girlfriend's behavior because that is what you do with your friends. This can come from fear of losing a friend or significant other. People like to hold on to things in the hopes of the person changing. This is a comfort zone.
It will cause you to have people around you who do not bring value to your life, and you will be okay with it because you don't see a problem in doing that. You are only justifying their characteristics and accepting them for who they are even if what they do does not mesh with your values. What's wrong with that right? Well everything.
If you have a friend who does drugs but you've known them since the 2nd grade you may find a reason to justify keeping them around even though you don't want people like that around you. Like who wants to get rid of a friend right? I wouldn't want to either. What you need to realize is that keeping people in your circle who are not uplifting you, motivating you, supporting you, or providing positive energy around you, will only create a barrier and more problems down the road.
Making excuses for people is bad and you cannot keep people around you just because you don't want to hurt them, or because you feel like it will create a problem, or make things uncomfortable. I know that you "understand" them and have become accustom to their personality but you have to step out of that in order for them to see what they are doing wrong.
I truly commend people who are accepting of people's flaws and know how to tolerate the things that don't mesh with them. However people like that don't realize how stagnant they are making themselves. You will feel much better by just letting that person go. How will that person ever grow if you continuously make them feel like everything is okay. They will remain the same forever. Make them uncomfortable by letting go. I guarantee they will see the bigger picture and realize their actions.
Oprah and Gale have one of the cutest friendships in the entertainment industry. I saw this video on For Harriet of Oprah speaking about her friendship with Gayle (watch it here).Their relationship has proven to be authentic and Oprah's tears in the interview as she spoke about Gayle was truly remarkable. It's hard to find true friends now-a-days. So many people want to compete with one another instead of empower each other. Watch and be inspired!