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Be a dreamer

8/31/2016

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How many dreamers actually fulfill their dreams?

Guys, I have been on a spiritual roller coaster and I am a living testimony that your dreams are indeed valid.

Nothing was handed to me. Nothing. I hustled my way into the entertainment industry and even now with almost 5 years under my belt it is still not easy for me. There's still so much I want to do.
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The overachiever in me is never satisfied. My dreams scare me because they are so big and grand. What scares me even more is knowing that "my" dreams are mediocre in comparison to what God has in store for me.

I am fortunate to be a dreamer and also an executor. I dreamed about this blog for 2 years before actually making it happen. It ended being way more than I ever imagined. I dreamed about working in entertainment and I achieved that goal right after college. I dreamed about hosting and leading my own events and I executed more than one this year with still more to come.

How many of us have dreams but feel like we are not ready to fulfill them? Guess what, that's normal. Sometimes we dream so big that we are not ready to receive that blessing just yet. Our heart has to grow with it before we excel in it. Don't rush success. How many Olympic athletes trained for years before becoming gold medalists? No one knew the beautiful Simone Biles last year. This year she covers numerous magazines and has received ample praise for 

Don't let your dreams and your destiny become a democracy. There will also be an audience of people to deter you from your dreams but you are blessed enough to overcome that. Be confident in what you want and ignore the critics. Your dream is too big for them to understand it. Even your family and closest friends will talk you out of it or question it, so sometimes its best to just keep it to yourself.

Dreamers are the architects of the next generation. If you don't put your dream into fruition a child someone in the world will suffer from it. You never know who you are inspiring.

A dream is an idea that will never go away. It has the DNA of transformation. When you receive the idea you are sometimes not ready to receive it. Your heart has to grow with it. God takes the dream and buries it. Your heart will grow with it. Don't give up on it just because it may seem to big. You will grow and conquer it.

Write down the desires of your heart and watch them come into fruition.

Don't be afraid to be a dreamer. Your destiny is waiting for you. 

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Live beyond the border of normality

8/25/2016

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"Live beyond the border of normality, become a better version of you, a dreamer becomes a visionary."

​About two months ago I attended an amazing conference in Pennsylvania that spoke a lot about dreams. As human beings we tell ourselves what we are capable of and then that's it. We don't try to achieve anything greater than that. We go to school with a goal in mind to become a specific "thing" and then that's it, let's get married now. No...

We are capable of being more than our occupations. After we graduate college we come face to face with corporate America and a 9 to 5. How do we break out of normality to accomplish something greater?

​Some of us have dreams to start our own businesses or become entrepreneurs selling what we are passionate about. Some of us are young parents who are out here hustling for their kids AND for themselves. Some of us are doctors who have comfortable highly paid positions and don't feel the need to do anything else.

​Whether you're a parent, an entrepreneur, or at the peak of your career there is always something you can do to take yourself to that next level. We have to train ourselves to always look for something greater and to never settle for what is in front of us. It will cause stability and a fast burnout. We have to set ourselves up to always reach higher.

"If you live your life on the basis of your "ability" you will not do much. You are capable of so much more."
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If only you saw what I see in you...

8/12/2016

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What if I told you that you had the ability to become whatever you wanted to be?

That no matter what anyone says to you, you have the ability to break down doors and accomplish your wildest dreams?

If only you could see the fireworks I see in your eyes when you talk to me about your dreams.

If only you could see that smile and joy I see in your spirit when you talk about your dream job.

If only you could see and understand the praise around you and stop downplaying it like you are not good enough.

What if I told you that your biggest idea and your biggest dream wasn't crazy?

What if I told you, you have a gift?

What if I told you your gift can change lives?

What if I told you if you don't follow your dreams people around you will lack your wisdom?

What if I told you I see something in you that you need to see in yourself?

What if I told you that thing inside of you that you keep talking yourself out of will be something that others will celebrate about you very soon?

Would you believe me if I said you could do it?
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If only you could see what I see in you...

-God
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Being 25

8/8/2016

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The quarter century mark of life is often times underrated. People don't realize how much you change during your 25th year of life. For myself I noticed a huge change physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. Being 25 has been eye opening. I didn't realize how much I would go through and how much I would learn about myself.

I found myself waking up and opening my bible app before opening Instagram or Snapchat. I was becoming more spiritually inclined. I found myself reading and journaling more instead of posting photos on social media. I was becoming more...uhh what's the word... mature?

Finding my purpose.
During this phase I knew I wanted to step outside of my comfort zone and accept the gifts God blessed me with. The only thing is that I wasn't sure what that was. I found myself trying to fill voids. Wanting more money, wanting more responsibility, wanting more of a challenge,  just wanting, wanting, wanting. I was never satisfied, I was never happy and even when I got more money and responsibility I still found myself complaining about something.

Leaving the production world and getting into marketing was solely a leap of faith. I didn't know if I would do well or if I would rise in the field. I went into it with the mindset of soaking in everything I could and then going back into production with a more broad mindset. Having that mindset made me burn bridges with some of my employers. Being 25 meant using my resources for a bigger purpose and goal. They didn't like that.

I started to appreciate my purpose over my income. At one point I would only accept a job if it paid over $70k. Even if I didn't like the job description I would still take it. I soon learned that money did not outweigh love and passion. I was burning myself out working jobs that didn't feed my soul. My account was magnificent but my heart was empty. I knew I had to get back into production and do what I was born to do.

When I finished grad school at 25 I felt rejuvenated. I felt like I accomplished something for me for once. The skills and mindset I took away from grad school birthed Unleash Yourself. A fearless queen who finally stopped being silent and found her voice through helping others. Being 25 meant overcoming boundaries that were preventing me from being me.

No more clubs
Being 25 meant no more clubs.
Well for me anyway. I honestly couldn't do it anymore. The loud music, the crowd, the sticky floor, the dirty bathrooms, ugh I can't. I found myself wanting a cup of super antioxidant green tea instead of a cup of patron on the rocks. I was maturing and appreciating my alone time getting to know me.

Traveling
Being 25 meant travel the world. Do something daring, do something strange, or over the top. I traveled to Dubai with my friend and let me tell you it was a trip for the books. Amsterdam, Dubai and Abu Dhabi are beautiful countries that everyone must visit. Dubai and Abu Dhabi are honestly the only places in the world where you can ride a camel, ride on a yacht, go skiing, pet a penguin, go zip lining, go to the beach, enjoy high tea in the tallest building in the world, wear and experience traditional clothing, and visit an amazing botanical garden. The only place! Being 25 meant to travel somewhere other than Punta Cana or Mexico. It meant become culturally educated and cognizant. 
The Marriage Bug
Eeeeek being 25 meant I'm ready to settle down. I'm ready to have kids before 30, I'm ready to be a wife before 30, I'm ready I'm ready I'm ready. After being in a relationship for 3 years I found myself feeling complacent. What's next? What are we doing? Where's my ring? Being 25 meant wanting marriage sooner than anticipated. Most women are ready for marriage before a man even gets to attempt to think about it. It's in our blood to be ready. Even if we're not really ready we will figure it out to be ready. Being 25 meant rush. My clock is ticking I don't want to have kids after 30 type of ticking.

Through prayer, meditation, journaling, and mentorship I learned that I wasn't ready for marriage. I began to appreciate being a girlfriend. A time period I would never get back. The long talks on the phone, the spontaneous daring dates, the feeling of actually missing someone is often times taken for granted. The dating period is a time every girlfriend should not rush. Enjoy it. Enjoy learning about his flaws, enjoy learning about his family, enjoy helping him reach his goals, enjoy sitting in the car for hours talking about nothing, enjoy not having combined financial stress, enjoy not having kids, enjoy being able to travel together with no worries, enjoy the simple things that make your relationship unique. Being 25 meant loving being a girlfriend to my best friend.

Friendships
Being 25 meant cut everyone off. I went through a phase where I only wanted genuine people around me. I felt like if there was a person in my circle that wasn't treating me the way I was treating them I would just not be friends with them anymore. As we go up on the elevator of life reaching our goals we have to let people off of the elevator or else it will get crowded. The smaller your circle is the better. With that mindset I started pin pointing traits I didn't like about certain people and would just cut them off. As I was doing that I realized that I wasn't giving my friends a chance to grow just like I was growing. No one is perfect and no one will be just like you. The different perspectives  in friendships create a richer dynamic of new ideas and concepts. I was more quick to cut someone off than I was to pray for them. I was quicker to judge than uplift. I was more prone to give up on them than find a reason to love them. Being 25 meant understanding others and appreciating their flaws.

Overcoming fear
Being 25 meant be a boss. At 25 I started speaking. speaking up, speaking sternly, speaking direct, speaking comfortably, and speaking...on...stages.... Yes I started public speaking. Never in a million years did I EVER think I would be on a stage speaking in front of a room full of people. Like what? Me? I'm so shy. I put fear behind me and conquered the room. I moderated and led a panel discussion, hosted an amazing women's empowerment brunch, and taught a class at Essex County College. I was finally stepping outside of my comfort zone and doing what I loved to do, empower others. I found my purpose in life through overcoming fear. Faith has kept me grounded and strength has kept me above the strong waves. Being 25 meant being resilient and unstoppable.

Going Naptural
Bruhhhhhh I never thought I would EVER go through the process of becoming "natural." Watching my beautiful long relaxed hair grow out and turn into a nappy fro was truly hard to watch. It was hard to embrace. I held onto my relaxed ends for 12 months until they were about one inch long. I promised myself I wouldn't go into my 26th year of life with relaxed ends. It was symbolizing me holding onto the past. I had to let it go. 

On the week of my 26th birthday I went to a local natural hair salon in Bloomfield and sat in that chair and watched my ends hit the floor. I already knew I would hate it but I was happy that I did it... finally. Being 25 meant letting go and embracing my new found beauty. Being 25 meant be natural.

Family

Being 25 meant family is everything. The older you get the more you appreciate your parents. I never believed that until I actually got older. I never understood why my dad always said "education is number one" (in his Nigerian accent). I never understood why my mom always preached about not bringing babies in her house before marriage (in her country accent). I never understood why my twin sister was so annoying (I still don't get that though).

As I got older I started to understand the value of family. They are literally ALWAYS there for me. Especially my mother and my sister. The older I got I realized I didn't need any friends because I had them. Rain, snow, or sleet they were at every event helping me reach my dreams. Even my bad ones. Being 25 made me appreciate my family so much more. I learned to value them and keep them close.

The beauty of being 25 is understanding the growth and being able to look back and appreciate it. I love the person I am becoming and I am excited to see what year 26 has to offer. I can only imagine.... because I never thought I would endure such strength being 25...
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