This post is long overdo. Nothing pains me more than seeing a woman who treats a boyfriend like a husband. Now this can be debated all day long but from experience and witnessing this from so many people I know, this is definitely becoming a growing issue.
My goal for #2017 was to mind my buisness but since it's only the 2nd day of the new year I think it's okay to renege on that for one minute.
We can't have this discussion without defining what a boyfriend is and what a husband is.
A boyfriend is someone who you are dating, connecting with (mentally, spirtually, & emotionally), getting to know inside and out, being there for them no matter what, and geninuely being their best friend.
A husband is someone who you have taken an oath & vow with under God who you have now become one with. You now have shared finances, a shared home, and will now be one spirtually and on paper.
See the difference?
When girlfriends are connecting with someone extremely well they start treating their boyfiend like a husband. They will start cooking and cleaning in their partners apartment, doing their laundry, staying at their apartment beyond their comfort limit, and just truly going overboard. This gives the boyfriend the opportunity to get comfortable. Why put a ring on it if he's already getting everything.
There needs to be a boundary during the dating stage. For me, I refused to play house at my boyfriends house. It gave me no validation to have my clothes or tooth brush at his house. I wanted more for us.
I wouldn't stay more than 2 nights there. I had my own life, goals, opportunities, and responsibilities. He loved my independence and started to want to get more serious because I gave him something to miss about me, my presence. I wasn't all up on him 24/7 and he didn't have all my things at his place to look at. We established a boundary between dating and acting like we are married.
When you treat your boyfriend like a husband he will remain your boyfriend for a lot longer. Try to fall back a little bit and allow them to see you from a distance. You will learn a lot more about each other than you think...