In this thing we call life, we have the tendency to lose focus on ourselves. We work nonstop, we thrive to be in successful relationships and friendships and care so much about elevating that we lose focus on our well being. It is so important to take a step back and reevaluate what is truly important to us and that should be ourselves.
I speak from experience when I say that I always put others before myself. Especially being that I am a giver and I genuinely love to see people around me succeed. Sometimes I exert so much energy into making sure everyone around me is happy that I tend to lose focus on MY needs and the things I can handle in my day to day life. For example, saying yes to attending EVERYONE'S birthday, event, Bridal Shower, Wedding, baby shower, gender reveal, engagement party, graduation party, etc and sometimes saying yes knowing that I already have 2 events to attend that day. I had to tell myself CHOOSE YOU and stop allowing people to pull me in so many different directions. It's okay to say no. I would exhaust myself going to 4 events in one day just to give my love and support when in actuality that wasn't necessary.
Choosing yourself brings a sense of peace. It allows you to reconnect with YOUR needs and start to understand who you are as a person. I really had to sit with myself and make a promise to stop saying yes to everyone. It was a sigh of relief knowing that I was choosing me first.
In addition to that, we have to make time to get to know who we are. Before you can truly be happy in a relationship, at your job, or even as a person, you have to get to know yourself and that starts with spending time alone and being happy by yourself. Going to the movies, taking a walk in the park, meditating, going to a restaurant, all by yourself is something you should get use to doing.
Trying to gain fulfillment in other people, things, and experiences is never going to cut it. It will only bring temporary happiness. Choosing yourself allows you to see that happiness is an inside job. It starts and grows from within. Take the time to get to know you, and you'll truly begin to elevate.