It usually starts with "Remember that time when you.."
We all have a past. Whether good or bad, no growth comes from being around people who highlight things that you can't take back.
The journey towards becoming a more confident person starts with separating yourself from people who highlight your past mistakes. If you constantly have someone in your ear recalling old situations like he say she say drama, fights, arguments, negativity, or hurtful things you've done, you need to cut them off especially if you are trying to move forward and grow.
It is equivalent to an exotic dancer who finally quits and goes back to school. Or a drug addict who goes to rehab and stays clean. Even a compulsive gambler who quits and starts giving his earnings to charity. If the people who were joining you in those situations did not grow with you, they will continue to remind you of all the things you did wrong. That means you need to let them off the elevator.
Negativity is a disease that can spread unless you have the mental willpower to overcome it.
Being around negativity is not healthy. If you are not mentally strong enough to handle comments like "Oh remember when you use to fight all the time, or remember that time when you got arrested?" You will feel like all your hard work to become a better you was all for nothing because the people around you are still bringing up the past. The key is to leave them there, and you will continue to move forward towards your destiny and goals.
I do believe that there are people who can learn from your past mistakes and grow from them. Those are the people who you will meet during your path of growth and personal development. They should be positive people who are open to receiving your lessons and growing from them too. So just be careful who you share your past mistakes with because they could turn into people who use them against you. That's definitely a topic for a different day!
All in all, you are a person that is striving towards change and bettering yourself. This year you should make a list of all your past mistakes. Then, next to each mistake write down the names of all the people who took part in those mistakes with you. If you feel like they are not growing with you, put a line across their name. I'm sure you'll know what to do next.
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